The irony is that if you’re reading this, you’re online. But, let’s talk about the dangers of being too connected to our technology and virtual world. Are you addicted to technology? How many hours a day do you spend on your computer, phone, tablet? Or is it easier for me to ask you how many minutes a day you do NOT spend on your computer, phone, or tablet? Let’s look at some of the problems with being digitally over connected.
All of us have a downloaded blueprint in our subconscious mind of How It Really Is. I use the term “blueprint” because your belief system is like the architectural blueprint for a house…that someone else designed. Whether it’s finances, love, health, or any other aspect of your life, how you were raised, the lessons you were taught, and your home environment all informed that blueprint.
Do you have someone in your life or are you the guilty party who constantly laments the same things to your friends, family, and co-workers expecting them to soothe your ego? For example, do you always say, “I’m so fat; I can’t believe how fat I am” and expect friends to say, “No you are not.” Maybe you are one of the friends on the receiving end of the dance who feels obligated to make the other person feel better. At either end of it, this scenario is exhausting and inauthentic.
Have you ever taken a moment to look around your house, office, car, etc. and compared how it looks to how you feel? If your house is clutter free, do you feel spacious and calm? If your office is a heap of papers, does it invoke stress and anxiety in you? How about the reverse? Do your surroundings become disheveled or cleaner based on your frame of mind? Well, there are studies that prove this notion! Physical and emotional are always playing off each other, as we are discovering more and more with revelations around the mind-body connection. Body is not only your physical body, but your environment as well.
Are you the all or nothing type? Go big or go home? I’m a reformed all or nothing type of gal. For example, one year I made a New Year’s resolution to get in shape, so I registered for the New York City Marathon. Did I actually run the race? No. I was so overwhelmed at the thought of winding around New York City streets for 26.2 miles on my feet as a novice runner that I never even tried. I also figured, not only do I not know where to start, it’s not like I’ll win, so why bother?
With daylight savings time comes shorter days, colder temperatures, and darker mornings. Winter can be a challenging time for many people. How do you feel as the days get shorter and colder? Do you gain weight or slack on your workout routine? What is your script about winter that you tell yourself and others? If you honestly answer these questions, you will begin to see a pattern of behavior that may keep you stuck in a negative winter experience.
Do you feel heard? When you interact with your spouse, kids, parents, siblings and friends do you get the results you seek? Is there satisfaction and understanding in your communication, or do you feel like you have the same frustrations and complaints over and over again? Well it’s time to shake it up! Consider that when you change, the people in your life have no choice but to change. Human relationships are a dance: when you change your steps, your partner cannot do the same old dance or you will trip over each other.
There are many reasons people are vulnerable to depression. Many women in our society are working and raising children. There are unrealistic visuals on every media outlet telling us we are not enough or not doing enough. Men experience the same pressures to be physically perfect and can be struggling to provide for their families in a rough economy. Self-image and self-esteem can be negatively impacted by these pressures and can lead to feelings of depression or despair. In order to enjoy our lives, mental health has to be a top priority. Let’s talk about tools for managing depression.