There are so many clichés about how becoming a parent changes you – all the things we can learn from our children and how wonderful it is to see the world through fresh eyes. And yet as cheesy as it may sound, most of them hold pretty true. Of course it comes in good company with sleep deprivation, exhaustion, lack of any ‘me’ time and whole new world of worries – but yes, it is indeed all worth it. As my son’s about to turn two, it seems only appropriate to reflect on some of the things I’ve observed and learned from him already.
‘Tis the season to be jolly – or is it? With all the stresses of the season headed towards us like a runaway (toy) train, now’s a good time to take a step back and put together a plan to help navigate the next few weeks so this year you won’t collapse in a stressed-out heap. Here are some thoughts and gentle reminders on how to manage the season, with more joy and less stress:
The new science of human relationships and brain development — affective neuroscience — has revealed that children actually download their parents’ ways of socially and emotionally relating. It’s truly a copy/paste situation! Attuned interactions with you are as important as calories in building a healthy brain. Together with tending to this attachment-based brain development, here are 5 ways to download wellbeing to your kids:
“There’s plenty of time for sleep in the grave!”
That’s what my best friend used to say in college, so we spent four years running on way too little sleep. Whether we were up late studying or partying, sleep was the lowest priority. Now I’m older, wiser and an avid sleeper!
Here’s why sleep has become a top priority:
My good friend, Mariel Hemingway recently released a new book, Running With Nature: Step Into the Life You Were Meant to Live, and a new documentary, Running From Crazy, which chronicles her life. She has lived a fascinating life and has been into Wellness for many many years, way before it became hot. So I thought it would be a great time to interview her.
Brené Brown studies human connection — our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk at TEDxHouston, she shares a deep insight from her research, one that sent her on a personal quest to know herself as well as to understand humanity. A talk to share.
The 12 Hows of Happiness by Brian Johnson…another mini chapter from his Philospher’s Notes.
What if we were joyful simply just because? We all know the feeling of our hearts spilling over with joy. Can you imagine feeling this way all the time, or at least believing you could feel this way at any given time?
There have been stretches in my life when I’ve been starkly aware of the absence of joy, where I couldn’t even imagine it. I remember describing it to a girlfriend as just plain missing. We all know how dull and flat this feels. A lot of joy’s absence for me was from wounds from my past that I wasn’t addressing, wounds of not feeling worthwhile.
Brian Johnson on planting a Goodness Garden
There’s excellent news for America’s largest generation! Just as tens of millions of Baby Boomers move into their golden years, new research reveals that your latest years may be your happiest. Could it be that youth really is wasted on the young? Young people usually enjoy high energy, peak physical condition, and that shiny optimism… Read more »