There are so many clichés about how becoming a parent changes you - all the things we can learn from our children and how wonderful it is to see the world through fresh eyes. And yet as cheesy as it may sound, most of them hold pretty true. Of course it comes in good company with sleep deprivation, exhaustion, lack of any ‘me’ time and whole new world of worries - but yes, it is indeed all worth it. As my son’s about to turn two, it seems only appropriate to reflect on some of the things I’ve observed and learned from him already.
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The new science of human relationships and brain development -- affective neuroscience -- has revealed that children actually download their parents' ways of socially and emotionally relating. It's truly a copy/paste situation! Attuned interactions with you are as important as calories in building a healthy brain. Together with tending to this attachment-based brain development, here are 5 ways to download wellbeing to your kids:
Welcome 2013! Resolutions — the very thought of them can send shivers down the spine, given the odds so many of them will be broken just days after New Year’s. With their high failure rate, it’s no wonder so many people resolve not to make them at all. However, I think we can do a bit better!
One of the things that is missing the most in the world today is “presence”. We’ve become a society where everyone watches TV, communicates electronically, interacts superficially and there is a lack of presence. This is because people have given away their own presence and don’t know how to get it back. There are many ways that people do this, but one of ways is by becoming too invested in a particular thing – a particular idea, a particular relationship, a particular possession or a particular dream. In becoming so invested in these areas or things, or sometimes just in one thing, we give away our power to simply be present because we’ve transferred it to the object of our focus. It’s a bit like tunnel vision where we’re focusing just on one thing to the exclusion of everything else. In doing this we not only lose our perspective, but we move away from our presence. We give away our ability to be our joyful, abundant self, fully present, fully aware. We lose our centre.